Parenting isn’t easy, but you never really know how hard it is until you become a parent yourself. So, if you are a parent, knowing what you know now, and knowing you’d have the same child, would you still go through with having children?
Well, that was the question posed to users on the British parenting forum Mumsnet, and plenty of moms were happy to chime in with very interesting answers. A surprising number of parents admitted that they wouldn’t have their kids, with some noting it “aged them,” and others feeling jealous after seeing the lifestyles of their child-free friends.
Responses include:
- “No I wouldn’t. It’s only since becoming a mother that I’ve realized what an absolute s*** show of a life we live in. It was fine when DS was younger, but he’s nearly an adult now and it’s not pretty out there.”
- “I love my children so so so much…However – if I was reincarnated I would absolutely choose to not have children because the child-free couples I know have amazing lifestyles that I’m super jealous of. I’d love to try out that way of living.”
- “I feel like having children has aged me,” one shared, noting that because your life revolves around your kids you “just can’t be ‘you’ anymore.” They add, “’I really, really miss having the freedom to live my life without having to always consider someone else.”
- “I have often thought this and dared to say it out loud but it wasn’t well received. Obviously I love them and they brighten every single day but I don’t think I would, at the very least I’d wait a lot longer to make sure it was what I wanted.”
- “I’d definitely consider a fabulous child free life. Holidays, loads of free time, early retirement. Last night I dreamt I was peering into a childfree couples house and watching them just watching TV in the middle of the day without a care in the world.”
Of course there were some that wouldn’t change a thing if given the option.
- “I was a fence sitter for a long time, but I can earnestly say that nothing has brought me more joy and happiness than my daughter. So no, I wouldn’t change it.”
- “Yes, without hesitation. My eldest saved me from the darkest time of my life. Both have brought me great joy; my life without children would be meaningless.”
Source: The Mail
