Letter from Miranda
"...we decided we didn't care what the popular kids thought of us, we would always be there for each other. Now, 30+ years later, we are STILL friends, and we are STILL goofy and we STILL have fun!!" Delilah shares a letter from 14-year-old Miranda, who is being bullied at school.
My name is Miranda and I am fourteen years old. Each night I can, I tune into your radio show, lie down on my bed and snuggle down to listen to stories of people's tragedies, relationships and happiness. Sometimes, I even fall asleep to you. I want to thank you for all of the advice you give to people because sometimes it helps me too.
I cry, I laugh and oh do I smile to hear all of the stories from so many people on your show. But, there was something that I always wanted to do. I wanted to get in touch with you. There is something that I don't tell most people but I want to tell you because you are like a mother to me, a mother that I can't see but can hear.
See, I am a target for bullies at my school. I am always getting picked on or insulted, sometimes even by the people who I thought were my friends. I don't know what it is. I try to fit in. I style my hair to fit into the new trend, I wear the clothes that everyone else wears, and I get pretty good grades, and yet I have no friends. I sit in the back of most of my classes, studying the dictionary and having conversations with myself. I know what kind of teenager studies the dictionary. I do!
I just don't know what to do, Delilah. I thought maybe you would have some advice for me to get through another three years of this. Thank you for hearing my thoughts, Mother Delilah.
I am so sorry you feel as if you don't fit in. Want to know something funny? When I was a young girl, I didn't fit in either! When I was born, I had crooked legs, so the doctors had to put casts on my legs. I wore those casts until I was 2, then I had to wear metal braces on my legs to walk...I was a chubby girl since I couldn't run like the rest of the kids, and I was BIG for my age. I was almost 5'10" by the time I was in seventh grade and I wore a size 10 shoe! So I was big, clumsy and sort of awkward for my age. On top of that, my folks were poor and most of my clothes were ones my mom made me, so I never had the "designer" jeans or shoes, AND I had a huge space between my front teeth...totally geeky!
But I had a choice. I decided that instead of being picked on and feeling like an outcast, I would have fun, no matter what. So I found a few other goofy kids, like myself, and we started hanging out and sort of became friends. When we got into high school, we were a bigger group of "nerds" you might say, but we always laughed a lot and had fun, and we decided we didn't care what the popular kids thought of us, we would always be there for each other. Now, 30+ years later, we are STILL friends, and we are STILL goofy and we STILL have fun!!
Look around and I bet you will discover other kids who are awkward, shy and sometimes picked on. Like you, they feel out of place or not "cool." But if you reach out to them, you just might find a forever friend or two!
God bless you,